My husband is cringing right now.
“What’s she going to say, he’s thinking. Breathe easy Mr. M. This is an early Father’s Day post, and you are one of the best dads I know! Unfortunately, I don’t tell you that nearly enough.
You know how it is — marriage, kids, life — sometimes it’s all too much to handle, so we prioritize the most important things and slack on the rest. For the past 13-plus years the Grinch and I have made the kids our priority. I’m not sure if that was intentional or merely just happened, but everything else has kind of gotten lost in the shuffle. The daily shuffle can be stressful enough, but when it’s your relationship with your spouse that is buried somewhere beneath the rubble left in the wake of parenthood, then that therein is where the problem lies. We must take time to nurture our relationships with our spouses, or we begin to forget what life’s all about. You’re only as good a parent as you are an individual, and if you (or your spouse) as an individual isn’t feeling great, then …
So honey, this one’s for you. Here is where I OUT you in front of the world (or in front of my small blogging community), and let them all know that you are not a Grinch at all (I just like the name), and that you are really a big softy at heart. Here is the lovin’ you’ve been missing lately (maybe not the way you would like it, but we take what we can get. Right?).
10 Things I Love About My husband
- He still tucks the kids in at 13, 13, and 10 almost every night.
- He is almost always ready to play like a kid and with the kids. From games of PB&J (something the kids and the Grinch made up) and jumping on the trampoline to riling the kids up at bedtime and sitting with the game-obsessed Thing 3 to play a board game (Pretty Pretty Princess was their favorite when Thing 3 was a toddler), the Grinch can most assuredly be counted in.
- He took such good care of me when I was recovering from my surgery and an allergic reaction to the anesthetic. He cleaned up my vomit, brought me ice water and jolly ranchers to suck on, and a wonder bottle for my aching belly and back. Who wouldn’t love a man for that!
- He changed jobs just months after our twins were born because running his own contracting business left him grimy and gross at the end of the day and he couldn’t pick up the babies when he came home at night until he showered. So instead he dove further into his other business interest — real estate — and has worked his butt off to provide for all of us. Sometimes I think he doesn’t believe how grateful I am for his hard work and drive that has helped provide our family with an amazing life.
- He believes that everyone should love their career as much as he does, which is why he whole-heartedly supports my writing, and is beginning to wrap his head around this whole blogging thing.
- He gives amazing back rubs!
- Although some people believe that I am the one who is more apt to protect our family and cast off those who are hurtful to us, The Grinch is fiercely devoted to and protective of us. If you hurt his family, you devastate him. So if you aren’t in our circle of friends any more, the Grinch probably had a very big part in making that decision!
- He and I have a connection that sometimes has us spitting out the most out-of-the-blue phrases at EXACTLY THE SAME TIME. Yup, we’ve still got it babe.
- He has the ability to laugh at himself and me, which keeps us all in check when we need it. (And he has passed on his quick wit and humor to our children, which is sometimes difficult to live with but man, can it produce some major belly laughs.)
- The Grinch loves me in all my shapes and sizes. Whether I’m heavy or thin, dressed up or dressed down, in a depression haze or a frenetic, obsessive-compulsive state, he is still there (maybe rolling his eyes a little bit), but he has never made me question how much he loves me!